It is worthy to note that these girls were all in their teens when they made this song. Yet, they have been taught to value a man that can do this, even if they don’t actually need him to. Years later they made Independent Women, where they celebrate women who do not need a man. Right now women and society are in this awkward phase of post feminism era of independence and old ideals about femininity and masculinity that often conflict. And it is from this that discussions like should men pay for the first date come up.