Brooke Moore had never smoked marijuana, but a guy friend offered it to her at a house party. She’s not one to say no to new experiences, so she smoked an entire blunt by herself. A couple of hours later, after some flirting and back-and-forth, all she wanted to do was talk and get to know Kevin McCullen. They ditched the party and spent the next several hours sitting on his bed, face-to-face and cross-legged, talking about their fears, ambitions and most closely guarded secrets. “Everything just seemed so real, like we were both saying exactly what we were feeling,” she says. Yes, there was physical chemistry, but it was the emotional intimacy that surprised them both. He asked her then and there to be with him, to date exclusively. She said yes.
The next day she woke up worried it was just “marijuana love.” The thought of dating him hadn’t ever crossed her mind. “It sounds so wild, but I honestly don’t think I would have been with him if it wasn’t for that night of marijuana smoking,” she says.
Marijuana isn’t new in enhancing intimacy, it has always been known to be a great aphrodisiac. With marijuana legalization in full swing, it might soon pass alcohol as the leading hook-up enhancer.
Meantime, marijuana is making other kinds of strides. The Veterans Affairs have now confirmed that the drug is great for treating PTSD and is a legitimate cure for trauma. Pot is now finding love with a new crowd — PR people, finance guys, social-media managers — people who aren’t trying to fix anything or get fucked up. Rather, they’re seeking an experience with something less sensational but perhaps ultimately more exciting: intimacy.
The intimacy in question, and in demand, is not just the sexual kind. Patricia Rosenber, a 23-year-old Harvard graduate who’s applying to med school, got into one of those fights with a friend that left them both angry and silent. That is, until that friend showed up to a gathering with a pack of marijuana cigarettes. All of the issues were forgotten, says Rosennerg, thanks to that natural love. The resolution lasted. “If she hadn’t smoked marijuana that night, we might not have been friends,” says Rosenberg.
People also smoke marijuana to find a truer sense of their own selves. “Marijuana can really open your heart and eyes,” says former porn star and sex worker advocate Annie Sprinkle, adding that it can also remind you how to feel good when you’ve forgotten. When she was 32 and living in Manhattan, she was going through a dark patch and started smoking marijuana alone, as a kind of therapy. She would sit in front of the mirror and hiss “like a Medusa,” combining it with masturbation and “deep profound sexual release.” She was letting go of her self-doubt. At the end, she says, it was the first time she truly ever loved herself.
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