Are rich Black men turning their backs on Black women?

Ziggy Marley and his wife
Ziggy Marley and his wife

An Empress wrote us on our facebook page asking: “Why do most rich Black men refuse to date or marry Black women? Even if they were with Black women before they got rich, as soon as they get rich, they dump Black women for women of other races.”

My Response was the following:

The first thing I thought about before answering the young Empress, was to give an answer that was truly and honestly how I feel about the subject, but at the same time reassure her that the real brothers will never leave the sisters behind. Not only will the real brothers not leave the sisters behind, but we will kill and or die for our sisters. So right up front, I want to say that according to the United States census, only about ten percent of Married Black Men were married to other than Black women. Now to some sisters, ten percent may be too much, but to me it means ninety percent of married brothers stick with the sisters. That is an overwhelming majority.

So I guess the question is; why ten percent of brothers neglect the sisters for women of other races? I always say, only JAH can judge me, so my aim is not to cast judgment on anyone. I do, however, think that there are wrong and right reasons for interracial marriages or romantic relationships. If two people admire each other, fall in love and want to share their life with each other, then under no circumstances should someone tell them that they dont belong together because of their different ethnicity. On the other hand, if a brother is brainwashed into believing that a sister is not as beautiful as a woman of another race or if a woman from another race just want a Black man because she feels he is wicked in the bed, then I think those are the wrong reasons.

As for the young Empress saying that on many occasions she saw a Rasta man with a White woman, let me say, I have talked to many Rasta Men who say they would rather date a White Rasta Woman than a Baldhead Black Woman. We also have to bear in mind that there are many rent a dread out there posing as Rastafarians. So every time you see a dread with a woman of another race, dont ever just assume that there goes another Rasta man turning his back on sisters. Furthermore, real Rastafarians burn dreadie. What cannot be discounted either, is the fact that there are many Whites who are of the Rastafarian Faith. A few years back we opened a show in Germany for Burning Spear and I am not exaggerating when I say, I saw more Rastafarians there than I see at shows in Jamaica. So with a lot of white Rastafarians and the fact the Twelve Tribe and Nyabinghi are pretty liberal and inclusive (Bobo Shanti are more strict on what racial lines can be crossed) it should not be surprising to see interracial Rastafarian couples.

Now the behavior by brothers that I cant tolerate is when a brother treats a sister like he treats his car. You know the brother that was driving the Honda Accord and then he graduate medical school, or law School or Maybe he signed a sports contract or a record deal, so he trade the Honda Accord for a top of the line Mercedes Benz? But he wont stop at the Benz, but he also trade in his Empress for a woman of another race. I know some people will say the media is to be blamed for such behavior, but how can we blame the media and the system, when will we take responsibility for our actions?

Sisters also have to look at themselves and see if there is anything they are doing to push the brothers away. There are some sisters who tend to paint brothers with the stereotypical broad brush. A sister might get mistreated by a couple of brothers and based on that she convinces herself that all brothers are dogs. I also believe more sisters need to embrace their African roots. You cant keep trying to look like other races and then get angry when a brother dates another race. Where are the dreads my queens? Where are the cornbraids? Where are the plaits? Where are the Afros? Come back to your roots and a lot of the ten percent that turned their backs will come back to you.

Let me wrap this up by saying, like anything else in society, we cannot just use a broad brush to paint interracial intimate relationships. There are good and bad reasons for interracial relationships, and when the reason is LOVE then there is nothing bad about it. I look forward to hearing what men, women, Blacks, Whites and everyone else feel about this subject.

For the Young Empress who sent the message, I dedicate to you the words of Bookman the Stepping Razor:

She is an African Queen
Every Black mans dream
Daughter of the Nile
Ethiopian Child
With grace and style
Disrespect the Black Queen and I make your skin burn and boil

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  1. Why does it matter at all?Isnt love just love?I see plenty of white men with black women and vice versa.Only i and i can judge…Isnt ziggy bi-racial anyway?Why is he automatically considered a black man.He is Just a man.I expected more from my rasta’s

    • No he’s a Blackman and to ignore that fact is a a failure to accept that black men and white men have fundamentally different experiences not because of race but because of racism

    • Although I agree with the comment that love is love and you can choose whom you love. I also believe that the slavish mentality still exist in this day in many of our black people; and to the brothers, the slave master’s daughter always looked better than the sister picking cotton next to them in the field. To many black men having a white man woman on their arm is acceptance, it’s like the forbidden fruit is no longer, (told to me by a black man) forbidden. The cherry at the end of the branch that could not be reached is finally reachable. ( rich black men, or black men in positions of power. Most marry other races ) to them the ultimate conquest. However the stone that the builder refused shall be the headcorner stone. But if it’s for love it’s all good…just saying

  2. May I not judge, but only offer my opinion. Black women are strong, much more than any other race, and we are beautiful.
    Black blood is so powerful. The struggles of our forefathers have made us strong-willed. We black women have an opinion about everything, and we are not afraid to express ourselves, and stand up for ourselves. Some baldhead black men are afraid of a strong black woman, and find it easier to manipulate a white woman. They do as they please and do not want to be told that they are wrong, when they are.
    At the end of the day, I see nothing wrong with inter – racial relationships, as long as it’s for the right reason, like you said.

  3. Was wondering why the Marleys are so into visiting israel, playing music and never thought of playing for the children of Gaza or the west bank, did they know that Babylon is israel!!

  4. We should be proud of who we are…no matter what races you belong to we are all the same in the eyes of God….We should be proud that we are black women..we are chosen & born to be black……even if black man run after white woman let them be….lets just be thankful to God for his blessing on us….Ask…..Knock…..&Seek & we will be given everything we want & will not be bothered complaining…..
    God Bless All Black Women

  5. First of all let me say this,i am a 45 year old man that have dated my own black empresses,white Caucasian and also japanese women,people fall in love with whom they want,its a free world.i cant understand why a lot of my black sisters have big issue with a black man dating a white woman,that is a sign of envy & borderline racism in reverse form.let me shed some more light from personal experiences,black men dont date white woman because they think they are more beautiful,black women won miss world and are some of most prettiest in world.One fact is a lot of black women do not want to be with a brother if he is broke and not rolling in lots of cash,not everyone of course theres a lot of my independent sisters out there,biggups to them,but most white woman will be with a brother whether hes broke or not,relationships should not be based on what you can get from the other person,or loyalty to a certain race.It should be because you love that person and get on well with them,whoever makes you happy & seeing beyond color. A lot of rich black celebrities get bashed for dating or taking white wives,but some of these same black woman bashing them, would probably have never gone out with this celebrity, if he approached them and ask them on date before he was a celebrity.they only bitter when this person becomes a rich celebrity and dating someone else that is not them.(Jealousy bitterness borderline racism)

  6. Hmmm…I don’t feel black women are bitter or exhibit borderline racism. I truly feel black women may feel some type of way because many do encourage black men, stick by their side and help. As some point they get the short end of the stick. As a result, they feel some type of way when they see his struggle, helped with the struggle and then he is with a white or other race woman who did not share his cries, disappointments and other issues. Many black women just feel they uplift and want to be uplifted. Please remember black man at the end of the day….when that woman of that other race decides to put you on blast you will be that word that is not socially acceptable. No matter how much money you have to fit in you are just a good ole boy. If you don’t believe it…keep on living time will tell.

  7. My wife is not white she is amerindian and east indian blend and im black. We met in medical school. I dont consider myself to be rich but make a living. Sisters accuse me all the time of that BS. I struggled financially through med school. Myself and fiancee/now wife pooled to make ends meet back then. Now that you have attained some level of financial freedom some sisters up in your face as if you are a disgrace to the race. Shouldnt be too quick to judge.

  8. Black men have been brainwashed since childhood with TV, magazines, newspapers ect.
    Camy commercials to playboy magazines. At the same time, black female are sexually defamed and robbed of the beautiful features. This world is afraid to let those features be displayed.
    In conclusion, we gotta know the treasure that we possess with our Sisters and value it. Their mind, body and soul…..so rich, what a treasure! But we gotta know it and show it.

  9. Natural hair will bring brothers back? I doubt that since this isn’t anything new. There’s plenty of sis with naturals…people just can’t fact facts. From childhood Ive heard brothers dissing sisters about being too black n hair thats not blond or halfbreed isn’t considered beautiful. Brothers too have self hatred its rooted derp and it’s not wise to put the full blame on beauty standards which white supremacy pushes on all women esp melanated women. I’ve heard sisters getting dogged for wearing naturals by their own brothers. The selfhatred of the called Black male must be addressed …blaming weaves is a bs of an excuse. There’s something else going on here. Also since 1960s or 70s the rate of Black men marrying white have rised since a supreme court decision. ..loving vs some state…I can’t remember off top my head but do a google search and one will find it. Sisters were more natural in those days yet broz still ran with it. I say it’s psychological and based on some trauma men are not able to openly discuss…the self hatred and hate of Black women esp melanin rich women. Asian men love and adore their women and I often see them with so called European features from surgery or contacts. Fact is brothers just don’t like themselves and sisters are a reflection of this and a reminder to never have melanin rich children. This is global even in the melalnin rich latino community. Not sure if its colonialism or just inherit but it seems to be only an issue in the so called…Black community . Peace!!!!

  10. First of all, bald black men are not afraid of strong black women. I think some of you sisters go too far with this “I’m a strong black women,” so that your whole passona aims to over ride the masculinity of any black man you encounter. In a sense you become like men.

    Black men like femininity. It is attractive; however, femininity is not weak, but it is strength expressed from a feminine principle. Proclaiming, from the mountain top, that you are a strong black women leads one to believe that one is ashamed of their own femininity.

    Other culture embrace their femininity a little better than some sisters, sins sisters are proving to be strong in a masculine way.

    In any case, love is colour blind, and so it should be. It is from a colonial perspective that colour becomes an issue to propagate the need for global division, and those that use colour mixing as an offensive action need to question the real powers that be.

    Strength expressed from a feminine perspective is attraction. Sisters should look at that.

  11. Love has no colour,I dated a rastsfarian man for 5 years I did nothing but respect and encourage him,I would never treat him like dog he is my equal as I was his

  12. Some black women is very an great full disrespectfull mean and think they r God gift to a man me my self as a black man am scared to be in a relationship with a other black woman .

  13. Love has no colour!!! Such a bunch of crap!!! I suggest you who beLIEve Love has not colour then I suggest you read a book called Black Rage!!! You all would be surprised to find that Love does have colour. If I am black and I am in Love with a black man then it is a Colour Love!!! Two people of colour sharing their Love with each other makes it Black Love!!! Means I deliberately chose to be with a Black Man because a hueman being is a man or woman of colour and since I am a hueman being I am definitely going to desire to be with another hueman being as well!!!

    NOW FOR THE OXYMORON ‘WHITE RASTA’ PHENOM!!! THE ARTICLE IS FULL OF FALSE INFORMATION!!! FIRST OFF THERE IS NO SUCH THING AS A ‘WHITE RASTA’. THIS IS THE PHUCKERY THAT PEOPLE NEED TO GET FROM THEIR PHUCKING MINDS FAST!!! I AM BIRACIAL SO DON’T NOBODY COME TELL ME HOW I AM RACIST OR JUST KISS MY BLACK ASS THAT IS NOT SO BLACK!!! PHUCK IT NOW!!! IT IS TIME PEOPLE STOP DEFINING RASTAFARI(NOT RASTAFARIAN!!!! NO SUCH WORD!!!) AS SOME MOVEMENT WHERE THESE BLACK DICK SEEKING WHITE CHICKS GROW SOME LOCKS RUN TO JAMAICA IN DI BUSH AND FIND THEMSELVES A MAN WITH LOCKS AND THINK THEY HAVE A RASTAMAN AND THAT THEY RASTA TOO!!! THAT HAS BEEN HAPPENING SINCE THE ORIGIN OF RENT A DREADS CAME INTO BEING ON THE BEACHES AND TREE HOUSES OF NEGRIL!!! I AM A JAMAICAN WOMAN WHO IS RASTAFARI AND HAVE WITNESSED THIS DEBAUCHERY ENTER INTO A MOVEMENT ESTABLISHED SOLELY FOR THE LIBERATION AND UPLIFTMENT OF BLACK PEOPLE!!! NOT FUCKING PALEFACES!!! I AM SICK OF PEOPLE TAKING THIS BLACK NATIONALISTIC, PANAFRIKAN, REVOLUTIONARY MOVEMENT AS SOME PHUCKING ‘PEACE AND LOVE’ THING ACCORDING TO THESE PHUCKING CAUCASIANS!!! THEY COME WEARING LOCKS AND RED, GREEN AND GOLD, SINGING REGGAE SONGS SOUNDING FUCKED UP IN THE PROCESS AND THINK WE MUST ACCEPT THEM IN OUR VILLAGES AND IN THE BEDS OF OUR SELLOUT SOLDIERS!!!

    MOTHER IS BLACK AND MY FATHER IS WHITE BUT I AM BLACK, BLACK, BLACK AND WILL NEVER, EVER IDENTIFY MYSELF AS WHITE!!! TO DO SO WOULD BE TO ALIGN MYSELF WITH AN ENERGY OF EXPLOITATION, MURDER, ROBBERY AND DEBAUCHERY AND I REFUSE TO DO SO. YES I HAVE SOME UROPEAN HERITAGE IN ME BUT I WOULD NEVER, EVER TELL ANYONE THAT I WANT TO BE WHITE. TO ME THAT REPRESENTS A COLOSSAL NEGATIVE AND I DON’T NEED TO PLACE MYSELF THERE. I AM QUITE COMFORTABLE IDENTIFYING MYSELF AS AFRIKAN!!! AND IT IS A GOOD THING I HAVE ALWAYS DONE THAT!!! WHEN I MOVED TO CANADA IN THE LATE EIGHTIES AND WAS CALLED A NIGGER!!! AT LEAST I UNDERSTOOD WHY!!! THESE PHUCKING WHITE PEOPLE NEEDS TO LEAVE THE RASTA MOVEMENT ALONE AND LET IT SERVE ITS INITIAL CAUSE!!! IT IS THE CAUSE OF AFRIKAN PEOPLE AND WHEN WHITE WOMEN ESPECIALLY COME OVER HERE WITH THEY LONG LOCKS AND SHYTT IT IS ONLY TO DISTRACT OUR MEN AND DELIBERATELY TO CAUSE OUR SISTERS GRIEF. I HAVE OBSERVED THEM VERY CAREFULLY AND THEY DO KNOW THAT WHEN THEY WITH ONE OF OUR BROTHER THAT THEY FEEL THEY HAVE ONE UP ON A BLACK WOMAN!!! THEY KNOW QUITE WHAT THEY DOING AND THAT IS TO COME AND SUCK ANY ENERGY OR SPIRIT OF REBELLION WE HAVE INSIDE OF US AND THEN YOU SEE THAT BLACK MAN TALKING THAT OBSCURE SHYTTT WHEN IT COMES TO RACE BECAUSE HE IS ENJOYING SOME WHITE PUSSY AND HE CAN’T SPEAK OUT AGAINST HIS ARCH ENEMY NO MORE. IT IS SICKENING!!! NO FUCKING AMALGAMATION!!! IT CAUSE FUCKING PROBLEMS AND I CAN SPEAK ON THAT BECAUSE I AM FUCKING BIRACIAL AND I KNOW ALL THE PHUCKERY THAT COMES WITH THAT!!! IN FACT I WOULD HAVE MUCH PREFERRED TO BE ONE HUNDRED PERCENT BLACK. NEVER, EVER WOULD I WANT TO BE ONE HUNDRED PERCENT WHITE BECAUSE IT REPRESENTS NEGATIVE BEHAVIORS TOWARDS THE HUEMANITY OF WOMEN AND MEN OF COLOUR AND I COULD ILL AFFORD TO BE IN THAT GROUP!!! NOT ONLY DO I IDENTIFY MYSELF AS BLACK BUT TO THE WORLD OF WHITE PEOPLE I AM ALSO A NIGGER!!! I HAVE BEEN CALLED THAT BY THEM AND SO THEREFORE I WANT NOTHING MUCH TO DO WITH THEM IN REGARDS MY PERSONAL CHOICE OF A MAN. IN FACT I AM SO FUCKING TIRED OF THE BROTHERS BEHAVIOR IN THE WEST WITH THESE PALEFACE WOMEN THAT I HAVE GONE OUT DELIBERATELY AND LOOKED FOR A BROTHER DIRECTLY FROM THE CONTINENT WHO WOULD NEVER, EVER WRAP UP IN BED WITH NO FUCKING UROPEAN WOMAN!!! ZIGGY MARLEY AND HIS BROTHERS DO NOT LIKE DARK SKIN WOMEN!!! THEY WOULD NOT MARRY A WOMAN THAT LOOKS LIKE THEIR MOTHER OR GRANDMOTHER CEDELLA BOOKER!!! LOT OF BLACK PEOPLE DON’T THINK THAT WOMEN LIKE RITA MARLEY AND CEDELLA BOOKER ARE ATTRACTIVE AND BEAUTIFUL AND THAT IS OBVIOUS IN WHAT THE MEDIA PUSHES AS BEAUTY AND IT IS OBVIOUS WHAT THEY THINK IS BEAUTIFUL IN THEIR CHOICE OF WOMEN!!! HE MARRIED AND ISRAELI WOMEN WITH THE IGNORANCE OF A SLAVE NOT WILLING TO LEAVE THE PLANTATION!!! AS A RASTAMAN IF HE KNEW HIMSELF AND KNEW THE STORY OF HIS PEOPLE’S SUFFERING IN AZANIA HE WOULD HAVE NEVER MARRIED THAT WOMAN!!! HE IS IGNORANT AND JUST LIKE SOME SUCCESSFUL BLACK MAN HE FEELS VALIDATED WITH THIS WHITE ZIONIST ON HIS ARM. NOW HE SAYS HE IS JEALOUS OF THE JEWISH PEOPLE’S WAY OF LIFE!!! IMAGINE THAT!!! THE ORIGINAL JEALOUS OF THE BABYWRONG COPY!!!! LIGHTENING AND THUNDA FI DEM AND FI BWOY WHO WRITE DI FUCKING STUPID ARTICLE!!!

  14. I didn’t read the rest of the article after you mentioned the 10% thing. With the wrong equation, the rest of thd article would be irrelevant. You stated that the Empressed asked about RICH BLACK MEN – not Black men in general! So redo your math on that and let me hear what you have to say!!!

    Thank you.

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