Have you ever wondered if it is even possible to keep a sex life from getting stale and boring? There are many horny couples who have been together for years or even decades but they manage to keep their sex as exciting as when it was new.
Chemistry changes over time, so the feeling of “I have to get some of you tonight does not last forever”. This does not mean that you cannot maintain a happy, enjoyable and exciting step life. Below we give you 7 ideas that if you follow them, your sex life will forever be as sweet and fresh as when you started.
1. Commit to foreplay
Couples who have a lot of sex aren’t the couples who rush through the motions to “get it over with.” That’s not a sexually content couple, that’s just depressing. A highly sexual couple commits to foreplay as a part as an overall sexual experience.
Women require clitoral stimulation in order to have an orgasm. A man should spend time playing with his woman’s clitoris. Plus, she’ll be properly lubed up and aroused to enjoy intercourse.
2. Make a sex schedule
Couples who have an amazing sex life know that waiting to be “in the mood” is how you wind up falling into a sexual rut. Sex is an important part of healthy relationships. Even if you don’t feel like having it, you should. It keeps intimacy alive and allows you to feel close. Plus, the more you push yourself to have sex, the more you will be in the mood. Maintenance sex is crucial for healthy couples.
3. Touch each other a lot
Highly sexual couples engage in a lot of intimacy. And not just sex! We mean holding hands, kissing, cuddling regularly, and maybe even the occasional butt squeeze. Intimate gestures keep you connected on an emotional and physical level.
One of the things we crave most as human beings is wanting to feel wanted. Showing your partner affection let’s them know that you love and value you them. When you feel loved, valued, and attractive to your partner, you’re going to want to have more sex.
4. Know that sex isn’t always perfect
Sex isn’t perfect every single time. You have to rush through it occasionally, sometimes you’re stressed and tired, and other times something just isn’t working for you in bed. Couples who have great sex lives know this.
There isn’t pressure to perform or make every time they have sex the best sex in the history of the world. Embracing realistic understandings of sexuality is a huge part of having good sex.
5. Take care of each other’s sexual and emotional needs
Good sex means not always being selfish. You can be selfish in bed sometimes but not always. Empathy is a key ingredient in the sex lives of couples who get it on a lot.
Anticipating your partner’s needs and caring about them is crucial. Not only that, but communicating those needs and asking them what they want is a big part of good sex.
Too often one person has an orgasm and is like, “Hm. OK. Well, sex is over now.” That is not fair. Both people deserve to enjoy sex to the fullest and, when possible, have an orgasm. If you don’t associate sex with pleasure, why would you want to do it?
6. Be very comfortable with each other
In order to have a hot, sexy, dirty, amazing sex life, you need to have a trusting and loving relationship. Both partners need to feel comfortable in their own skin, feel able to discuss fantasies and desires, and not worry about the occasional awkwardness that comes with sex.
When you’re comfortable with your partner, you’re willing to be more experimental and try new things. Novelty is a big part of a hot sex life. Couples who have trust and care for one another are couples who can explore new sex things with ease.
7. Be best friends
Couples who have a ton of sex aren’t just partners in marriage, they are best friends. They laugh together and are each other’s favorite people. Marrying your best friend may sound like a pipe-dream, but it really isn’t.
If you spouse isn’t your best friend and also the person you want to do all the sex with, what’s the point? Build your friendship. Having more in common than just sex makes for a better sex life.