Jamaican men! Please! They are serial womanizers and telling the truth is more like trying to draw water from a rock for those ones!
That is what most of my girlfriends believe.
A guy reading this would most likely think that my girlfriends are filled with issues. A woman reading this would most likely think that my girlfriends are speaking something that many of us as women feel. But is it really that difficult to find a faithful Jamaican man in truth?
I have been in a long-term relationship for the past 3 years. I trust my boyfriend completely. He travels extensively for work; I have been out with him to work related functions and I do recognize that he works with some extremely beautiful women. Do I stress him and remind him not to cheat and all that insecure reprimanding that some females; many my friends included, would find it fit to do? No way! I refuse to be one of those untrusting, insecure types. My boyfriend and I, we are solid. We communicate brilliantly, even on matters that we disagree on. He makes time for us and the sexual aspect of our relationship still sizzles.
Some of my girlfriends are of the view that I have my head in the clouds. One even said to me recently that I would be in for a rude awakening when I find out my man is just like all the others.
They are all bastards! She said. I know my friend well, so I knew she meant it.
I will call her Marcia for the purposes of this article. Let me tell you about Marcia. Marcia was in a 4-year relationship with a Jamaican. A cool guy! He was funny to be around and highly ambitious. The only problem with him, from all the many girlfriend talks Marcia and I have had, is that he did not know how to be faithful. In a way, I say Marcia knew this from the start. When they got together, it was a sexual thing. She was single for over two years, he was a great guy who made her feel comfortable and special, and so she decided to give him some of her ‘treasure.’ Hey! She is my girl and if guys can have sexual relations with no strings then why can’t we as females?
To answer that question, most of us females don’t just know how to do the sex only thing. It is not in our DNA. Oh yeah sure! We start off that way, just getting our grooves on. But after several encounters we become territorial and the emotional attachment develops and we go down that path of demanding more of the guy’s time, his affections and all the securities of a full on relationship.
Marcia and her man started out this way. It was sex only but it developed to be more and she fell in love. He claimed to have fallen in love too and now 4 years later she is crying her eyes out because he claimed he loves her but these other ladies are just sex. He pushed the excuse that those other women meant nothing to him. I will not judge him. It may be as he says, but why should my girlfriend bear the brunt of his sexual flirtations? They kept breaking up and making up.
So many of my female friends are well into their thirties and single. These women are educated, have great jobs and are independent, yet their reason for being single is the lack of a ‘good man’. Some of these women have been burnt and are afraid and others are just plain scared to enter a relationship because of all the drama that they see around them from other girlfriends. And then there are some of my girlfriends, who quite frankly, have their heads in the cloud, holding out for this blissful, perfect relationship! Ok my sweeties. Grow up eh! That does not exist.
The Jamaican man has probably brought this tag of being a cheater upon himself. Too many of our island women are jaded from their experiences with our men. At one point, it used to be that Jamaican men mistreated their women but nowadays it is beyond that. Amongst my girlfriends and other females we speak to, it’s the Jamaican man in general that carries the torch of being heartbreakers!
I approached my brother on this subject of the cheating Jamaican man and he shared a rather unexpected response. He thinks that women have men figured incorrectly in that many of us females believe that a man will sleep with anything that moves if she strips naked in front of him. Not so says my brother. There are men left out there with standards, morals and values and even those that are inclined towards cheating are not necessarily going to jump in bed with the first naked woman that presents herself. I know a few of my female friends would have a field day arguing that one though!
Those Jamaican men that indulge in cheating and claim that it is no strings sex are the ones that make life hard for us females seeking that honorable man and in a way it makes life tough for those guys who are genuine, having to deal with females and some of our many trust issues.
Ladies, my advice is to take that potential love interest on his own merit. Don’t stereotype him but let him know explicitly what your standards are. Does the Jamaican man know how to be faithful? Of course some of them do. My man does!
But most Jamaican men are trouble.